I would write a poem in memory of my sister if she passed away, and this type of poetic tribute can be a moving and very personal part of any funeral or memorial service. It doesn't matter if a tribute poem is world-class literature; it comes from a sibling's heart and expresses special memories or impressions of the sister who has died. Even those who have never written poetry can write a poem to remember a sister in a few simple steps.
The best way to find inspiration for a tribute poem is to gather tangible reminders of the person. Photo albums or pictures are a great place to start, as they can trigger long-forgotten memories of small and large events during the deceased person's life. Longer letters or e-mails about the person can also be a wonderful way to call that person to mind. Some siblings keep journals, and new and old entries in which the person is featured can help highlight the most important part's of a sister's life.
Capture a Memory
Do a little writing about the sister who has passed, and her describe favorite traits, or a favorite memory. A whole poem can be written about a very small moment in time or a very small characteristic. Maybe a brother wants to write a tribute poem for his artist sister, and his poem focuses on a favorite picture she drew for him. Another poem might focus on the way a sister's smile, or the way she would tell scary stories during camping trips.
Starting the Poem
Poems do not have to be a certain length, and they don't even have to rhyme. A poem is just an impression or collection of impressions about something, described in words. If rhyme comes naturally, feel free to use it in the tribute poem. If simple blank verse seems more appropriate, use that. Don't be afraid to edit the poem if a different word would describe something better, or would work as well but make the poem read more smoothly.
Some may find that writing the poem brings out strong emotions. Have plenty of tissues on the computer desk or bedside table, and don't hesitate to take a break from writing if the emotions are too much. Writing a poem can be a great way to work through emotions like sadness, loneliness, or even anger. Don't worry about possibly making others sad, or about anything besides remembering the special sibling relationship that's been lost. Tribute poems are deeply personal, and it may be difficult for others to hear, but it may be healing for those who knew the deceased person the best.
Presenting a Poem in Memory of My Sister
The tribute poem can be read during the memorial or graveside service, or it could be printed inside the bulletin or program for the funeral. Some funeral homes will print poems on small cards for the people who attend the funeral to take home with them. A printed presentation of the poem is great for those who are not comfortable with public speaking, and it can be printed anonymously if the writer would prefer it that way.
Poetry and Mourning
Writing poetry can be a great way to work through the intense emotions that happen when someone dies. Losing a sibling can be deeply traumatic, especially if the loss is sudden and unexpected, and writing a poem about a lost sister can help the sibling to process the loss and begin to understand and fully experience his or grief.