If you are grieving the death of a child, having to deal with all the emotions, difficult questions, doubts and fears can feel overwhelming. The help and encouragement of others, especially from others who have been there, can be therapeutic. A supportive group can help parents process their loss, and work on healing.
Where to Find Support
Fortunately, there are places of support for parents. Some of these are organizations have international and national recognition as well as local chapters. When you go to the website you can do a search to see if a support group has a meeting place near where you live. Most groups have a non-profit status, are run by volunteers, and do not cost to join. Some may offer mailing lists you can sign up for.
The Compassionate Friends
The Compassionate Friends (TCF) provides support for grieving parents across the country. The organization has 650 chapters located in all states, as well as in the District of Columbia, Guam, and Puerto Rico. TCF offers understanding, assistance, and support for bereaved families, including parents and siblings. TCF also offers resources such as memorials, as well as local and national events including candle lighting and memory walks. The website also has a chapter locator, which helps you find a chapter of TCF in your area.
Bereaved Parents of the USA
Bereaved Parents/USA (BP/USA) provides support for people who are newly bereaved, including parents, siblings, and grandparents. The national organization has chapters throughout the United States. Chapters host monthly support group meetings. Along with local chapter support groups, BP/USA provides the following services to the bereaved family:
- Articles and poems
- National newsletter
- Annual events
You can find a local chapter using BP/USA's online chapter locator.
MISS Foundation helps bereaved parents by providing C.A.R.E.S. services, which include:
The foundation provides crisis care, as well as long-term assistance to parents mourning the loss of babies or children. MISS also engages in research aimed at reducing the number of child deaths in the United States.
Available services include:
- Online and in-person support groups
- Care for families facing a terminal diagnosis for an unborn baby
- Articles, advice, and tools for grieving parents
You can locate local support groups on the foundation's website.
Mothers with Angels
Mothers with Angels Memorial and Grief Support is a website that helps grieving mothers memorialize their children and provides support through shared stories, articles, spiritual verses, and advice.
GriefNet.org is an online resource that helps bereaved parents through multiple initiatives, including:
- Email support groups for parents and kids
- Online memorials
- Other resources such as books and articles
Grieving Parents is an online support community for parents who have lost children. Along with email support groups, Grieving Parents has online memorials, a cyber-cemetery, and a photo album.
Along with support groups, friends and family, parents can reach out to others in their communities for support.
If the parents are a member of a church or religion, they can meet with their church's minister. Clergy are trained to provide support and counseling for the bereaved and may be able to help grieving parents find spiritual comfort in their grief.
Many members of the professional psychological community, such as counselors or psychologists, specialize in grief support. You can find trained grief counselors through local referrals, (try asking a member of the clergy, a school, or a local funeral home), or by using a tool such as the Grief Counselor Locator.
Reading to Help
Do not neglect your local library or bookstore. Find the bereavement or grieving section (these should be labeled) where there are a variety of books written by those who have walked in your shoes.
Creating Web Pages
Sharing your child with the world is helpful to many parents. You can create memorial webpages in many places, including:
- Much Loved allows you to create tributes and browse others.
- Legacy Memorial Websites allows you to create online memorials.
Take Time to Get Help
If you are a grieving parent or friend of a grieving parent, it is okay to seek help. Grief support has the capacity to benefit the bereaved by providing an outlet and support for the emotions. Look for a physical group that meets in a brick and mortar place, as well as for the groups online. Be careful, because every group may not meet your needs. Be part of a gathering that will assist you in coping the best you can in life after the death of a child.