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Melissa, I am so very sorry for the loss of your son, Nicholas. I understand your sentiments about wanting to live again. And you are right, you will never be the same person again.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

Cindy, I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious son, Steve. It doesn't matter if he was 29 or 92, he will always be your little boy. Hold tight to his memories, but don't forget to live your life a little bit too.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

My son passed away April 14, 2006 it has been 3.5 years tomorrow since he passed. Nicholas was my first born he is the love of my life, he was 10 years old when he passed and he died with me lying in bed next to him holding him like I had done countless times before. The pain has been unbearable for so long but I now find myself able to laugh again and think about the future without crying that he is no longer a part of it. There are some things I just cannot bring myself to do like, dance crazy as we did together, or eat his favorite foods. Some people would call them crazy but I do not. This has been the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in life and I pray I never have to go through this kind of pain again. I would not wish this kind of pain on anyone. I have to keep going for my other two children they deserve to have a happy childhood. It is not their fault their brother passed away. I never want them to grow up resenting the fact that they had a brother and after he died, the fun days ended. I'm not saying you have to get right back up and start living like nothing has changed but if you have other children they deserve to have a Mother and/or Father that is there for them too. It has taken me 3 years to be able to feel like I can live again and there are days I feel guilty because I feel like I am not thinking about Nicholas like I should but I can not quit living just because my son died I have to keep going for my family and for myself. It has been a long haul and I still have a long ways to go. I will probably never be the same as I was before he passed but I am trying to get a little ways there.

-- Contributed by: Melissa

It was 6 years this August 16, 09 that my son hapassed. It feels like just yesterday. My son Steve was 29, he will alway be 29 and handsome. I am better, I still dont do housework like I use to I really dont do much of anything like I use to. My neice says I lost my spirit when Steve passed, this is true. There are unanswered questions how and who were responsible. Nevertheless my sweet son is gone and I wakeup every morning wondering why I should get up. Sleep is my best friend. I have a daughter Christine and she has had two beautifull grand babys Charlie and Chloe. I live for them now but they live so far away I can only see them a few times a year. My depression would not be so bad if they were closer. So here I sit day after day until I can escape another time to see my babys knowing that my son is always with me in spirit. Loosing a child is the WORST LOSS of all.

-- Contributed by: Cindy

Nancy and Theresa,

I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet babies. I know the pain and hurt you feel.. It will lessen with time. It's been more than eight years since my baby girl died and my days did get brighter. I do think of her and will never forget her. Be kind to yourself.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

Its been almost a year now in May & I am still sad. I cry every nite thinking of my babygirl, Destiny. I wish she was here and nothing can bring her back.

-- Contributed by: Nancy

Its been one week since my 3 year old son passed away. He is my hero and my inspiration, i miss him terribly. I just can't believe it. I have 2 other children who i have to be strong for. But my life feels empty now.

-- Contributed by: Theresa

It's been eleven day since I lost my Daughter,Kimberly she was 11 years old. I still cannot believe she is gone she made me a better man and Father. I have four other children but she was my youngest girl she went to church with me she did almost everthing with me she was my little pumpkin. I do not know what I am going to do with out her in my life. Things that I will not be able to with her like meet her first boyfriend and tell him not to hurt my baby or he will have to deal with me, take her first prom picture, go to her graduation, walk her down the isle at her wedding and take care of my granchildren she would have had is killing me inside a piece of my heart is gone I am lost without her. I will always miss you. I hope you know you will always be Daddys LITTLE PUMPKIN

-- Contributed by: Kevin T. McDonald

Dear Elsa,

I am so very sorry about Damon. I know the pain is still very fresh and deep. Take your time with your grieving and try not to worry what your family says. Unless someone has also lost a child and walked in your shoes, he or she does not know the intensity of your grief. As for your children, I am sure they are very confused. There are many books available to help them. ((hugs))

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

Just over two months ago my husband and I lost our precious one and a half year old little boy, Damon. He was the light of our lives and nothing is the same without him. We have 4 other children who are also very torn up with his passing, and I am having a tremendously difficult time living without him in our lives...family has not been much of a support as they all seem to have these perceptions as to how we should be feeling an acting, which is making our grief even more intense. I am so broken hearted without my little Damon here...

-- Contributed by: Elsa Hudson

Dear Teboho,

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandson. Remember, you are not only grieving the loss of your grandbaby, but also grieving for your son/daughter and their loss. It's hard. Please be gentle to yourself.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

I have lost a grandson of 10 months and seem to be battling to cope with the grief. Please help

-- Contributed by: teboho

Thank you, Cherri.. Unfortunately like you, I know all too well the grief and pain a parent goes through after losing a child. I have added your Web site to the article. I hope you find some peace today.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

Excellent article Mary Beth, thank you on behalf of all bereaved parents.

I would like to add to the above list of online resources for grieving/bereaved parents.

My Child Loss Grief.org

MCLG offers many tools for parents on this journey, and is always adding more to offer better support.

-- Contributed by: Cherri
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