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Linda, I am very sorry. When my daughter died, I got a lot of similar comments -- that is was for a reason. You are grieving and people really don't know what to say. It sounds like your husband committed suicide.. i can't imagine your pain. Have you sought out a support group? Supporters of Suicide is a good online group. You may want to give it a try. You can also visit LoveToKnow's grief forums is you are looking for a place to vent or share your grief.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

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If it was true that God won't give you more than you can handle, there wouldn't be suicide in this world. The next person who tells me my husband's death was "for a reason" or "part of God's plan" is likely to get my honest opinion of those unhelpful observations.

-- Contributed by: Linda

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While I understand your point of view, when a person first loses a loved one, the last thing they really want to hear is that the person is in a better place. They want that individual physically on Earth.. I'm sure in time, they will come to understand about being somewhere, if that is what they believe, but in the early stages of grief, most won't want to hear something like that.

-- Contributed by: MaryBethAdomaitis

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I see nothing wrong with saying a loved one is in a better place. Certainly for Christians like myself, we know without a doubt that a born again believer is in heaven when they die...it's a celebration, not a time of depressing cir...stances!! The loved one truly IS in a better place! They also are not suffering anymore AND, everything DOES happen for a reason...according to God's plan for our lives. I'm sad to see you included those in the section of what not to say.

By the way...God won't give you more than you can handle...so that one is good too!

-- Contributed by: Why
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