Grieving for Cat

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The process of grieving for cats can be complicated. On the one hand, you may feel as though you are overcome with a huge sense of loss when a beloved pet passes, but on the other hand you may feel compelled to hide your feelings because you fear that no one will truly understand your pain. Allow yourself the time to grieve, and the overall experience will be much more beneficial than if you ignore your feelings.

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Acknowledge the Grief

A cat can be a beloved companion, a cuddly friend and a constant source of joy for the owner. When a cat passes away, there is a definite void for people who truly adored their four-legged friends. Although many people have the misconception that a cat’s death is somehow less traumatic than the death of a dog, grieving for cats can be just as difficult – if not more so – dependent upon the relationship the cat and owner shared.

You should not feel as though your feelings of grief over the death of a cat are trivial. You should acknowledge your feelings and disregard thoughtless comments from other people if they tell you things like, “Just go get another cat,” or “What are you so sad about; it was just a cat.” Your feelings are valid, and for your own sake you need to deal with your grief in whatever way you see fit.

Buy Memorial Products

Some pet owners choose to purchase special products that are designed to memorialize a cat that has passed away. Typical memorial products include:

  • Glitter Globes that are suitable for display and feature a cat figurine and prayer.
  • Figurines that are identical to your pet’s breed.
  • Emblems that can be used as magnets, key chains or in various other ways.
  • Engraved Plaques featuring your cat’s name, date of birth, and date of passing along with a picture of your cat.

You do not necessarily need to purchase a memorial for your cat. You may instead decide to simply frame a favorite picture of your cat or keep your cat’s favorite pillow in a prominent location of your home. The point is to have a visual reminder of the cat you so dearly loved.

Cremation and Burial

Many cat owners choose to find a suitable final resting place for their pets, whether it’s in a pet cemetery or instead in an urn on a mantle.

Pet Cemeteries

You can search the Pet Cemetery Directory if your choice is to bury your cat in a cemetery designed for pets. These cemeteries can oftentimes cover all the details regarding the burial including obtaining a casket, providing a memorial service, and engraving a proper grave marker. The advantage to a pet cemetery is that you can always go visit the grave to aid you in grieving for cat.

Cremation

Cat owners often choose cremation for their pets. This allows you to choose from a number of options:

  • Burying the cremated remains of your cat in a pet cemetery or on your own land.
  • Placing your cat’s remains in an urn.
  • Spreading your cat’s ashes in a desired location.

Pet crematories are located throughout the country.

Grieving for Cats Properly

There is no right or wrong way to grieve over the loss of your cat. If you are fortunate enough to have understanding friends then you may want to talk about your feelings openly as this may speed up the healing process. A memorial service may grant you the closure you need. Do not feel foolish because of your grief; cats are fantastic animals and can be dearly missed once they are gone.

You may not want to rush into obtaining another cat unless you are certain that you are ready to bring another pet home. Be sure that when the time comes to open your heart to another cat you’re actually ready, and not simply trying to fill the void left by your cat’s death.


 


Comments

I just went this morning to get my cat, Moose, a 6 year old tabby, from the vet hospital. He had been in since Thursday with pneumonia, and he died yesterday. I'm just so upset. He was a wonderful feline, and I'll always love & remember him.

-- Contributed by: Susan

My lovable black male cat Hershey passed away in his sleep two days ago. I had just taken him to the Vet and had a full check up on him. His blood showed a high level of an area that was consistent with a thyroid problem. When we sent the test out to check it but it came back normal. He showed signs of a heart murmur too. He was a rescue animal I took in three years ago. He would not hurt a flea even though he had claws that could tear you up. So gentle and just wanted to be loved all the time.

We had him on anti-biotic and de-worming medicine because he was losing weight. After we brought him home, he was his old self. He was eating, picked up some weight but was peeing everywhere. He went to his usual day time place to nap and when my wife came home she found he had passed away in his sleep. He looked very very peaceful. Like he was dreaming. no signs of any pain. I can't figure out why an 8 year cat dies in his sleep. I didn't want to do an autopsy because I didn't want him cut up. I am blaming myself and can't eat or sleep now. Did I miss something? He was not is any obvious pain, or suffering, or not doing his normal things. Do cats have sudden heart acts in their sleep or stop breathing in their sleep? I know cats hide their pain well and he was not fully healthy but dying in your sleep with no warning. Can you tell me if this is common and what usually are the reasons for this? Did I kill my own cat by not seeing a sign or something? Thank you -- Contributed by: Basil

Dear Carol, I just put my precious baby girl to sleep the other day. Like your cat, she was just beginning to show signs of suffering. Although the veterinarian told me she had felt a lot of pain. I've been a Vet Tech for 10 years and one thing I always said was that I would never let my best friend suffer. And the thing with animals are that they hide their pain so much better than we humans do. Your note made me feel confident that you and I both made the best decision for our beloved kitties. Thank you for that. It really helped me.

-- Contributed by: Terri
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