Choosing the right funeral poetry for your grandmother can be a complicated task. How do you select a sonnet or verse that expresses your feelings for someone with whom you have shared so much? Those who have not been fortunate enough to have an intimate relationship with Grandma also have a hard decision to make. No matter what your time with grandma was like, choosing the words that commemorate her death is difficult.
Poetry is similar to music in the way that it|inspires and stirs hearts. Words can paint pictures, capture memories and explore emotions. Funeral poetry is a traditional way to offer sentiments to mourners while speaking kindly of the deceased. Many individuals use poetry to convey final thoughts and tell the deceased things that if given the chance-they would say in person. Others use religious verses or scriptures that were cherished by the deceased. Here are some examples of religious verses commonly used as funeral poetry:
Funeral Poetry for a Grandmother
If Grandma was a poetry enthusiast, you have an advantage. While you may not have the title picked out, you can select from a poet she adored. If you do not have one in mind, consider some of the esteemed poets of the past:
- Elizabeth Barrett Browning
- Emily Dickinson
- Robert Frost
- Walt Whitman
- Whitcomb Riley
- William Shakespeare
- Alfred Lord Tennyson
- Edgar Allen Poe
- Lewis Carroll
Examples of Poetry
Some samples of poetry that can be used at your grandmother's funeral include:
- Heaven is What I Cannot Reach
- Shall I Compare Thee To A Summer's Day?
- The Tide Rises, The Tide Falls
You can find other works online, in bookstores or at the library.
Presenting Funeral Poetry
Presenting funeral poetry -- especially for your grandmother's service -- can be difficult and daunting. Even for those who are skilled in public speaking, a sentimental situation, such as a funeral, is an entirely different atmosphere from that of a business seminar or meeting. You may have trouble deciding which tone you will take when speaking, whether light-hearted or serious. You may also wonder how you will get through your reading without shedding tears.
In addition, if the presentation feels sterile and rehearsed, other may be offended at your lack of compassion. All of these issues can make presenting funeral poetry for your grandmother overwhelming. Here are some tips to help you overcome your fears:
- Write- While you may not be writing your own poetry, you will need to jot down some opening and closing thoughts. You do not need to say much, so don't fret if writing is not your craft. Start with an introduction of yourself and the author and title of the poem. You may also tell the party why you selected the poem, whether for memories or other reasons.
- Practice- Practicing your presentation in front of a mirror may be helpful. You will have the privilege of seeing yourself and identifying any awkward gestures or lack of eye contact. Also pay attention to your words, are they clear and audible? Have someone else listen to be sure. Consider the size of the crowd and whether you will have a microphone to help project your voice.
- Relax - Remember to relax, take deep breaths and focus on your poem, the rhythm of the words and the loved ones with whom you are grieving. Take a few moments to look around and enjoy their company.
Allow yourself time to grieve as you busy yourself with preparations. Remember--selecting funeral poetry for your grandmother can be a cathartic experience.