If you are looking for the right thing to say to someone after the loss of a loved one, there are many bereavement verses, both religious and traditional, that can be used to help ease his or her pain. The main point to remember is that by using a bereavement verse or quote, you can't say the wrong thing.
About Bereavement Verses
Condolence sayings, quotes or verses don't need to be complex. Of course, it is best if you speak straight from your heart. But finding the right words to say can be difficult, especially if you have never experienced the loss of someone close. If you choose a sympathy greeting card with a preprinted bereavement verse, you should always add your own sentiment.
Verses to Use
Your bereavement verse should reflect your feelings:
- "I'm sorry."
- "Please let me know if there anything I can do."
- "You are in my thoughts and prayers."
- "(He/She) was a wonderful person. I'm so sorry (he/she) is no longer here with us."
- "Please be gentle on yourself."
- "Don't be sad. (He/She) would not want you to cry."
Verses You Shouldn't Use
Saying the wrong thing can sit bad with a bereaved person or family:
- "(He/She) is in a better place."
- "(He/She) is not suffering anymore."
- "I understand your grief." (unless you really do understand what he/she is going through.)
- "Everything happens for a reason."
- "God won't give you more than you can handle."
- "Are you feeling better yet?"
Using a religious quote or verse in a condolence card or letter after someone dies is acceptable. It should not be considered inappropriate unless the family to whom you are sending the sentiment is atheist or of a culture that did not believe in God, heaven or the like. There are many websites from which to choose a religious sympathy verse:
- What Christians Want to Know quotes quite a few Bible passages about death and eternal life.
Original or Traditional Verses
If you prefer not to use religious verses, here are some sites that offer traditional and original bereavement quotes:
- Wisdom Quotes is a wonderful collection of condolence verses. Authors include Emily Dickinson, Mark Twain and Robert Frost.
- Sonshine Crafts has a list of bereavement verses and poems used in making special calligraphy prints.
- Memorial Keepsakes has sample sympathy verses that can be used in condolence letters.
Bereavement Verses for Funeral Thank You Notes
Traditionally, thank you notes are sent by the deceased person's family following a funeral or burial. However, finding the right words to thank individuals for their generosity during this difficult time may be a daunting task. Here are a few websites that have sample thank you notes available for use:
Again, it's not how much you say, but what you say. For the family of a deceased person, a simple "thank you" is sufficient enough. However, if you feel the task of thanking everyone for their help and generosity to too overwhelming, enlist the help of another family member or friend.